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Impulsivity is one of the cardinal features of ADHD
. Interrupting others when they're talking can be perceived as rude. Try to control the impulse to jump in with your thoughts. Instead, listen to what the other person has to say and wait until they're finished to say what's on your mind.
Also, when you do start talking, try not to dominate the conversation. If you're talking nonstop or if people have stopped listening, you're probably talking too much. Stop and take a breath.
Staying focused and paying attention can be difficult for someone with ADHD. However, listening is an essential skill for good communication. When your mind wanders, you can come across as distracted and uninterested in what others have to say. People like to know what they're saying is interesting.
Try to be present as much as possible when interacting with others. Listen to what the other person is saying. If your mind happens to wander, and it probably will from time to time, don't get down on yourself. If you think you missed something important, ask the person to repeat what they said. If you're having an important conversation, such as one at work, it can also help to repeat back what you heard to make sure you have heard correctly.
Listen With Your Eyes Too
The look on someone's face, their body movements, tone of voice -- these nonverbal cues are an important part of communication and can tell you as much as a person's words (and, in some cases, more). Pay attention to people's facial expressions, their body posture, and their tone of voice. If a person who is scowling says they're happy, well, you can probably trust their facial expression over their words.