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Pay Attention to Your Body Language
It can be difficult for someone with ADHD
to remain still long enough to engage in a conversation. You may be fidgety. You might be looking for something to do with your hands. That's okay, to a point. Just be aware of what your body language is telling others.
Want some examples? A lot of people fold their arms across their chests in social situations. However, folding your arms across your chest makes you appear unapproachable and defensive. If you need something to do with your arms and hands, trying holding onto something instead.
Not making eye contact can make you appear uninterested. Make eye contact with the person who is speaking. Making eye contact can also help you pay attention. Head nods and "uh huhs" go a long way in letting someone know you're listening and interested in what they're saying.
Finally, don't forget to smile. It really is contagious. Plus, studies have shown that the simple act of smiling can help improve your mood. So, if a social situation isn't going as well as you would like, and you would rather be anywhere than where you are, try a smile to brighten your outlook.
Practice Might Not Make You Perfect -- But It Will Definitely Help
You can't expect to develop your social skills overnight. And, while it's great that you're interested enough to read articles giving you pointers on social skills, you'll need to do more than just read about it. You're going to have to get out and use the skills you learn. As with most things in life, the more you practice, the better you'll get.
If you're looking for more social opportunities, consider joining a group you find interesting. Be creative and have fun. Interested in reading? Join a book club. Like hiking? Look into local hiking groups. If you're the athletic type or enjoy playing sports, join a local amateur kickball, softball, soccer, or other sports league.
By joining a group of people who have similar interests, you'll have something to talk about right at the start. A yoga, aerobics, or spin class is another great way to be around other people to practice social skills while doing something good for your body.